Cold differentiation, fusion and stuff.

[Kettricken]

[quote=Cobra] This is followed up, of course, with the standard "Dr." laura tough-love..."...you should consider yourself lucky to have such a hubby...".
So of course, as a couple of guys, me and Cobra are going to be all "yeah!! what SHE said!!! woof woof woof!". And of course, I think my wife is just SO lucky to be the beneficiary of MY ~fabulous~ draggon-slaying skills, {stop that snickering!!}

I was snickering, but only because I love how you put it. I do get it.

I tend to overreact in these conversations because I don't like feeling like I am getting lumped in with "women do this", if it doesn't seem to fit my reality nor that of most women I know (what you said about the "narrow/obsolete demographic") . I feel like someone is making unwarranted assumptions and thereby shoving me into a box that lessens me. Yep, need to remember that what anyone thinks about me does not change my reality one whit and clamber out of my center-of-the-known-universe chair because they're probably not even thinking about me in the first place....

I'm sure it feels wayyyyyy harder than it needs to be to explain what you do to us mere mortals (grin). Especially when you're tired of thinking about it already. I do know that on the occasions when S. has managed to find a good layman's explanation or metaphor I could understand, I really appreciated the window into his world. Mostly, we wind up talking about office politics or where his group is going or who he had lunch with and what they talked about and what kind of feedback he's been getting from various sources and, wow, they want me to go to China, etc.... But I'm not prying it out of him, he wants to discuss it, which I guess makes a difference.