Real sucky day

[lester]

I could check and see how my ex is doing with her husband too?

Unfortunately, I already have plans this weekend.

[fightingirish]

Lester,

Theo is incredibly wise.. Take his advice.. And there should def. me know way she takes the kids to see him.. if my H even thought about doing that, Id be cutting something off.

Sorry, Anyway, since I have never posted on your stitch before, I just wanted to say how sorry I am, and that the egging you on to get a rise out of you is just that. Do let her get to you.

I see you are young and have been married for 9 years already, you got married young like I did.. its a work in progress, Nothing is easy especially when you have children, you just want to block them from everything.

Keep cool, and if you do find out that she is going, set the matter straight, nip it in the bud if you will.

Blessings~

TAL

[lester]

honestly i would probably be long gone if it weren't for those two wonderful kids. When I get a chance I'll post their pictures.

Yeah, I too totally agree with theo. I would have said something last night if I saw a plane ticket or order form. It just looked like she was looking around things to do in Arkansas for the family. Being that he's from arkansas is a strong correlation that she wasn't thinking with me. Oh, absolutely she's gonna have to run me over to take my kids with that snake.

[fightingirish]

Good for you! Keep up the good work!

TAL

[Dr LOve]

Hey Lester,


I don't know what FACT you have that your W is going to see the OM. If you do then you have the right to be upset. BUT.......
If you are just getting worked up on the BELIEF she is going to see the OM DON'T GO THERE. We always believe the worst. this changes your PMA. Every timeMy W left the house and was gone for a while I was thinking "she is meeting him somewhere" Now remember that my W OM lives two states away. Yes he could be in town but it is not likley. But my Beliefs were hurting me. It's hard enough to deal with the facts. So if you have no prof LET IT GO.

Ok bud

Husband

[lester]

I know I sometimes get worked up that's why I didn't rant to her about the website. It's fantasy and that's her problem. If it turns to reality then it's mine. To clarify OM lives near us not Arkansas but his family roots, etc. are there and that's where "they" would go or so I've been told. I have let the website go I'm just responding to the kind people here.

Right now I struggle with detaching because she whines if I'm not with her. But I need to work on being less available. Can't GAL every night because the kids would miss daddy and well I'm not up to the going out all the time thing. I'm a work in progress whatever the outcome. It is all becoming.. right?

[Yoyowife]

Keep up the good work, it seems as if she is feeling a little neglected and jealous, but don't let it get too out of hand.

[Dr LOve]

Hey Lester,

i was not getting on your case. This is the place to vent and let it out.
But that FACT or BELEIF therory has helped me alot. WHen something happens I stop and ask myself is it a fact or just my mind messing with me. If it's my mind I need to let it go. If it's a fact I need to deal with it knowing I can't change it.

Just trying to help

[lester]

Exactly. And I guess I don't know how I come off but I didn't mean to sound like I was coming down on you. But I do agree and that's kinda what I was trying to explain in my posts why I didn't put a foot down so to speak. Cuz as far as I can tell this is still fantasy (marriage, honeymoon, vacations websites, etc.). Still upsets me but I'm working on that too I really do appreciate your help husband.

[LL44]

I used to peek at H's history on the computer and it would upset me at times (for example: looked at belly rings, and guess what, I don't have one), so I try not to look.

How are things going?