Ok hun, Im in no way condoning his actions, but speaking from one who knows, this was our issue and its ongoing...

My H has an extremly high sex drive. Mine is very low. he actually felt rejected when I didn't want to and porn is where he turned. Don't get me wrong, some men just like looking at porn.. they are visual creatures.. we are emotional ones.. anyway, It does not mean he doesn't love you.. believe me.. I still struggle with it, but ive learned not to take is personally. My H doesn't look at it anymore (at least I don't think he does ;\) but is still stings.. My H is very active in the bedroom and ive started to have an open mind. Not crossing any lines mind you, but if he is not paying attention to you and looking towards porn instead of you, than that is a problem.

I would definately ask him to stop that it hurts you and if you want to go forward with an honest relationship, that it has to start there. I would also tell him that you are willing to discuss any changes that would make your Relationship better.

Take Care.

TAL

me: 37
H: 44
Married for 18 years this june
S7
S3
porn issues, and much more... since 7/06

Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.