nephartiti, I am in a very similar situation. My husband moved out on Aug 1. We were separating so that we could work on our marriage and date each other. About a week after he moved out he stopped even trying he said it was over. I did nothing wrong. I found out this past weekend that there is OW he says they are just friends. But hes never home. I have to stop snooping Im so scared its too late and I want my marriage to work so bad. We dont have any kids so I never see I dont call him anymore bc I dont want to drive him further away. Something is giving me hope that he is going to come home in time but I dont know what is giving me that hope. Im guessing its God bc its definately not my H. Im addicted to riding by his apt to see if he's there or riding around looking for him. I want to call so bad but I cant. Im just praying that God will touch his heart and make him realize that he needs to come home. I just dont know anymore. I know what you are going through and Im so sorry. I know its hard. It's killing me! Have a great day!