Cold differentiation, fusion and stuff.

[MJontheMend]

Okay, I read some excerpts from Deida's book for women. If I choose to substitute "universal love" or something like that for his use of "God", I don't disagree with what he has to say. In fact, some of it reads just like the kind of erotic romance novel that has an about-to-be-reformed-rogue with serious biceps on the cover. Although, I must admit it cracks me up a bit that he keeps using the word "enormous" or "enormity" to describe the kind of sexual love a woman yearns for. He says that a small percentage of women actually have a balanced male/female sexuality but most women are deeply feminine in their sexuality at core but have alternating protective male and female layers on top of this root sexuality. So, it would seem that he is suggesting that the Superior Man would be able to penetrate these protective layers but also that a woman should try to get in touch with her feminine sexual core which I would interpret to mean that a woman should try to be more vulnerable or open. I actually think I'm starting to get it. My real difficulty with understanding the concept was that it always seemed to me that the suggestion was being made that I should return to a less mature level of sexuality, that I should regress to a feminine shell that would leave me even more encased then any of the masculine ones I inhabit on occasion. Also, Deida does make it clear that not just any man will respond well to an open, vulnerable core feminine sexuality which makes total sense if you think about any of the obvious analogies. The best one I can think of at the moment would be that you want to be like an open door leading into a warm inviting room. (The cow keeps picturing a Norman Rockwell scene in which Thanksgiving dinner is on the table and the Superior Man is pushing an enormous Christmas tree through the door. - lol) Some guys are going to ransack you if you leave yourself open like that and others will feel like they don't deserve that level of comfort. So, like I was thinking, you need to be intuitive and empathetic in order to be vulnerable. Maybe compassionate too, if you can maintain respect and not let it become pity.