well, I personally think you did pretty good. reminding him he doesnt have to stay at the apartment.. was kinda called for. i think he actually nudged you into that one, and it was good that you responded that way.

The only thing that was not so great, was you mentioning "well we could work on the yard and that would be some time together".

I dont think he's looking to put in "hours together", even if you are ;\) Makes it sound like you have both agreed on a marital recovery plan already. oops.


Contrariwise, you MIGHT have asked...

"I plan to do some gardening this weekend. I could use a little help with it, if you wanted to help me out?"

My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle