It's not a person that "makes" you happy. Happiness is something you have to find and build in yourself. Relying on someone else for happiness is a big burden, it makes happiness completely conditional. That's very unhealthy.
So obviously the WAS is seeking happiness in an unhealthy manner through reliance on the OP. When you consider the dynamics, the chance of that bubble eventually bursting is pretty high. No one can or should be completely responsible for another's happiness. That's unrealistic. The LBS who had been relying on their spouse for happiness actually has a better chance of becoming healthier and truly happier because they are now forced to find happiness elsewhere. Some will turn to drugs, drinking, replacing spouse with someone else (or plural!!!)... while others will look inside (like with DBing).
It's just like Blues here is saying. He feels like he's coming out of a fog. I think he's finding himself and happiness inside. I think no matter where his life goes he is going to be a little (or a lot) better for this experience.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
