Thinking that H is not a perfect human, I can see why he feels he cannot just "dump" her once again, after all the crisis she went through (not condoning that she brought much of it on herself, but still). But yes, Dom, he is still hurting me by "not hurting her too much". He IS doing everything else trying to please me. Without this contact, my H would be the "perfect husband". In fact, most friends see us now in public, displaying our affection to each other, they are all in awe in how we are keeping our love for so long (friends do not know about the A). He is considerate in every other way. Just this part he is not telling me. I asked him, and he said "Pleae leave me alone. I will take care of this." He is taking care of it his way, by letting it die slowly. Like letting a camp fire slowly dies out. Not the way I want it. My question to myself is, "Am I OK with letting it die out slowly, which I believe will happen, or do I push again and risk losing it all. Do I accept that this is a shortcoming of H being sensitive to OW's feelings, which in a sense not make him a cold blooded person, OR do I push him to do what he cannot do?" Still debating.
