lwb, it took me a while to wrap my head around the fact that separation can actually help things. I think I called my friend every day to ask questions on how that was possible. it does help to lay groundrules (and not just so they are supposed, really talk about specific expectations). MC during a separation is helpful, too. our mc stopped seeing us, though, since H wouldn't end the affair, so we didn't have that on our side. I hope in your case, the separation does help. try try try to focus on yourself, not on him, while you are apart. and if he is that good/active a dad, this is going to be really tough on him. and sometimes having it tough is a good thing...will possibly make him finally realize the reality of the situation. good luck.
neph, woo-hoo about s2!!!! my s3 has zero interest in the potty...we are approaching slowly, and I know someday he will be done with diapers, but boy, he is just like his big brother, in no rush to get there. as for scrapbooking, I just started, and it is so much fun.
I'm back from my busy morning and had a great time. no crying, lots of laughter, and oh, such a sweet little baby to cuddle. the time flew and before we knew it, it was time to pick up the kids from school. the twins had so much fun. they immediately started telling me about all the fun they had at school and how much they love it. that brought the tears to my eyes...happy ones. I am so lucky. so very lucky. because no matter what the future brings, right now I am doing my dream job of SAHM. I love it. I miss my H, I miss being a wife in every sense of the word, but oh how lucky I am in the mom department.
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"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
