Beer? That can cause belly fat. No, no, no.... chocolate martinis!!! pA-lease.... Let me know the bar and I'll meet ya all there too!
Cali, Do not stop detaching and moving on with your life. You really need to do that for you. Don't take the pet name thing to heart. Do not yo-yo back to where you were (expecting this to work and him to come back). Unless he's actually pursuing you and trying to convince you he wants to be there, do not create any expectations in yourself. Chances are if you "pull toward him" he's going to "pull away."
It sounds like you may be starting to get the hang of letting go of the leash. He needs to TRULY FEEL what it's like to lose you. And you need to feel the freedom and limitlessness of completely letting go of him.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
