Cold differentiation, fusion and stuff.

[Burgbud]

(Fearless) I am thinking specifically of Deida's chapter 15 on a man coming home after making a MILLION dollars and having his wife's only comment being "That's nice. Did you pick up the milk like I asked?" Deida says that you should EXPECT AND WELCOME that attitude from your wife.

QUOTE - "Why is she being this way? Because she simply wants to deflate your success? NO. She is challenging you because your success doesn't mean sh!t to her, unless you are free and loving. And if you are free and loving, nothing she can do can collapse you. She wants to feel you are uncollapsable, so she pokes you in your weak spot." and "It's a tall order to be this free, and in your more mediocre moments you will wish your woman would settle for less. But if you are a man living to his fullest, willing to play his edge and grow through difficulties, then you will want her to test you. You may not like it. But you don't want her to settle for some bozo who depends on his woman's response to be happy." (I added the bold.)

Which is interesting because it's Deida describing pure, unadulterated differentiation.