Cold differentiation, fusion and stuff.

[MJontheMend]

I've actually known a few couples similar to what you describe and they too seem very happy. No way I could do that though... yuck!

It might be helpful to you to think about why your response is "yuck!" Using a strap-on would really be at the far edge of my sexual comfort zone because I'm not quite comfortable enough in my femininity to do that and also because I simply don't like toys or paraphernalia very much. So, in order to do that I would need some combination of alcohol, feeling good enough about my femininity to "act" the masculine, a partner with whom I was intimate enough to know his boundaries/desires, a partner from whom I could "borrow" validation of my femininity, feeling good enough about sexuality in general to perform the edgy and a high level of general arousal/ horniness. I have gone for the prostate on a couple men and I got the same response from both of them which was along the lines of "I must admit I really liked it but it was a bit over my boundary line so it makes me psychologically uncomfortable." I have no real urge in my sexuality to push a man into that level of vulnerability. On that edge of things, I just want a guy who is comfortable enough in his masculinity to allow me to maybe grab his *ss and f*ck him from below. It's his choice if he wants to see that as high monkey or low lioness. I'm good either way.