Cobra- I get confused with where you coming from sometimes and I think it revolves around your professed lack of love for your wife. I'll just paraphrase Deida where he says that the Feminine gets pissed when one does not feel loved, I just wonder how you would fit that into your thinking?
That is very much in the front of my thinking, but you've got to walk before you can run. I am absolutely convinced that there is a circular problem in my M that is part her, part me. As I have discussed many times, her issues come from fear. That fear has destroyed her ability to trust and therefore to have faith. Love means placing yourself in a vulnerable position and having faith that will not come back to bite you.
Before we could get to that level, all the other crap had to be addressed and moved out of the way. So I step forward, she steps forward. One step at a time. Love will be one of the last things on the list. BTW, I think the masculine gets pissed when it is not loved too.
