Ok, here's a recap of lastnight unplanned talk. I was in the living room doing my PMP quiz and finished. I started to fold up some clothes and W came out the bedroom. W looked as though she wanted to say something but could not find the right moment to start the convo.

W started to iron her work clothes and said if I ask you for a non-contested D will you sign it, there will be no child & spousal support. I replied, I wont sign anything. Then the argument started. W said well she will simply do a contested D and take as much as she can from me. I told her to be careful because I will fight it as much as I can, I told her that remember she was taken into custody on a domestic abuse call. So for her to be very wary of that when the court ask her about that allegation.

W said she has proof of emotional and physical abuses. I told her my attorney asks her if she would kill me or had intentions to kill me, how will she answer that question under oath. W could not answer my question. All this time, W was in my face and very angry. On the other hand, I was more placid than ever and for once handled the situation without blowing my top.

W still blames me for WAS. I told her I need to find the original email I sent to her about accepting the job to relocate to Maryland in which W refused to join. My mistake was to chose a job over my M but I was in a situation where I was already out of work for 2 months. Being unemployed simply dont pays all the bills around the house.

W said that all the 'so-called' job interviews I had was simply to take D to daycare so I can chat at home. I told her that why would I want to was 25.00 per day for D when I dont have any monies coming in simply to chat, it dont make sense.

W continues by saying the MD job was for me to go to OW. I told her Yes I emailed OW and told her we can meet, but OW didnt lived in US. I looked at OW email headers and the IP address all the emails originated from was Belize. There was no way OW could have been in MD, OW made me believe she did. So OW was not physically in MD as to what W believed.

I asked W how can she just leave one R for another, she said I did so when I left Houston to reside in Baltimore. It never happend. While I was in Baltimore, my project didnt even started. I had a uhaul full of stuff, all my credit cards were maxed, I could not stay in a hotel no more than 7 days due to company policy, I had to get a lease right away. I was not sure if I had a job period.

It was a really bad experience but W does not or do not want to overlook this option I had. I still work for the same company but they relocated me again last September to MO. In Dec, I relocated my family with my own monies. W does not see this something positive rather she reflects on all my faults.

I told W that it seems she dont have any faults or had ever done anything wrong in her life but she has. W admits to no blame which is rather foolish as if she is so perfect.

W dont even think separation will be good she simply wants a D - for what? W cannot give me a credible/valid reason why she wants a D. Is it because I cannot tell her then that OM cant be around our D? Probably so, but with a separation I can control OM behavior around our D.

My question is now, do I ask her for a separation to reason things our or take the non contested D even though I dont want this?

See the W, Listen to the W, but dont Speak back to the W. Bridle your tongue...