Do you really see Deida and Schlessinger in agreement? I've only skimmed her book and listened to her rarely but I don't see her as having much in common with Deida.
She is speaking to women, Dieda to men, so the approach is different and each sounds different. But listen to the overall message. Dieda encourages the man to focus on himself and his purpose, to be true to himself, not make excuses to shortchange his potential, be a rock to his W and family, not worry about the tests he receives from his woman.
Schlessinger speaks to women to allow the man to become the same thing, to ease off testing the man to comfort herself but rather learn to trust in his abilities to provide, and allow him to express himself in the way he chooses as a man, not only in the feminine, emotional way she wants him to. I hear her message as allowing an unshackling of men from trying too hard to please women, thereby allowing the man to come more into his male polarity. This makes him feel more whole and content because he is can think like a man, rather have to alter himself to think like a woman. Schlessinger says this makes both people happier.
So from a bigger picture viewpoint, I think they say the same thing, only from different approaches.
So she's a great Deida woman! She's challenging you, right? Why not accept the challenge?
I am accepting the challenge. What is it you don’t hear? But just because I accept the challenge does not mean it is something I prefer or necessarily enjoy.
