Thoughts on phone calls

[BryanS]

So this has kind of become my update thread since it's the most recent. Went to visit the W and things went very well. Now, when I talk to her on the phone, she's been calling me honey and sweetie although still no ILY. That's OK. What I'm having a hard time with now is two fold: one, she just got extended a couple of weeks at her current location and there's a guy there that has hit on her repeatedly and makes me very uncomfrotable. The worst part is that she defends his behavior because he's just a guy and we're having issues. My point is married with issues is still married and he may be a guy but not all guys are that way. In fact, his behavior should set off all kinds of red flags for her but it doesn't seem to. It really hurts that she defends it although I still believe that nothing has or will happen with him. Second: she took a job in MD and I just got assigned to TX for the next 3 years with a year of that being an overseas stint starting in the Spring. So, they'll be about 6 months when she's about a 7 hour drive from me so I can visit as we continue to see if this is going to work but after that, I'll be gone for a year with no way to visit. I'm worried as hell about that. I know it's still 6-7 months out and a lot can change in terms of the strength of our M in that time but I can't help thinking about it.

I asked her like it mentions in the book that if she sees some positive improvement in me to let me know she sees it. Nothing yet and it's getting really hard to stay positive and hopeful with some of the negative things she says to me.