================== I get miserable about the fact that we only seem to get the odd day together from time to time and always with the kids. ================= Yup, that's be me too, my H's schedule is horrible, and I just realized that when he's off, that's his "weekend" and we dont' do much. So I'll make it my mission to do something for us when he is off. I have two sitters, one for the week, and one who is available weekends and odd days so H and I can go out.
=================== when we only have one day together i feel under pressure for the day to be perfect and it quite often goes wrong. =================== We, women, fret too much. And all men want is normalcy, remember that. When he comes tired and moody just give him a big hug, tell him you love him and then let him unwind, and watch, how later he'll come around. The time right after people come from work is called the "toxic hour" because nerves are on edge.
No, hints wont work. I love this book I got (written by a man) called "Men, Love & Sex: The Complete User's Guide for Women" which is another eye opener. It gives you good insights, for example, you dont' say "we never do anything romantic" because you are stating the obvious and is a negative comment (much like "we dont' have sex anymore") On the first instance, you make plans to go to that fav romantic restaurant you both like and you tell him "let's go this friday", most times, if you give man a plan he'll run with it. Same with sex (ok, my SL isf rozen now because of the recent events but I always got "i"t when i did the following) you dont' wine about it, you put kids to bed, put on that sexy lingerie you got somewhere, and tell him how much you want him. Though nothing will work 100% for each couple, but that has worked for me 99% of the time
hugs))) and relax, look back and see the progress you've accomplished!
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
