Wow allot of traffic while I slept I have a couple of quick questions while I try to digest some of this.
Fearless given that Schnarch seems to think that fusion and enmeshment problems are a natural part of marriage do you think it's possible that you may be ignoring some of the ways that it could have manifested in your relationship?
Lust for life - You said "However, my H would probably be disgusted and annoyed to see that book in our house or that I was following her hypocritical advice." Would your husband really try to control what books you read? If this is a serious reason not to bring home a book I would be questioning how free and equal you actually are.
Cobra- I get confused with where you coming from sometimes and I think it revolves around your professed lack of love for your wife. I'll just paraphrase Deida where he says that the Feminine gets pissed when one does not feel loved, I just wonder how you would fit that into your thinking?
