Cold differentiation, fusion and stuff.

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Both Dieda and Schlessinger talk about the problems this mentality creates.

Cobra,

Do you really see Deida and Schlessinger in agreement? I've only skimmed her book and listened to her rarely but I don't see her as having much in common with Deida.

I am thinking specifically of Deida's chapter 15 on a man coming home after making a MILLION dollars and having his wife's only comment being "That's nice. Did you pick up the milk like I asked?" Deida says that you should EXPECT AND WELCOME that attitude from your wife.

QUOTE - "Why is she being this way? Because she simply wants to deflate your success? NO. She is challenging you because your success doesn't mean sh!t to her, unless you are free and loving. And if you are free and loving, nothing she can do can collapse you. She wants to feel you are uncollapsable, so she pokes you in your weak spot." and "It's a tall order to be this free, and in your more mediocre moments you will wish your woman would settle for less. But if you are a man living to his fullest, willing to play his edge and grow through difficulties, then you will want her to test you. You may not like it. But you don't want her to settle for some bozo who depends on his woman's response to be happy." (I added the bold.)

This just does NOT seem like it has anything to do with Dr. Laura??

Also you wrote to Burgbud:
At the same time, remember that I had said before that my W would listen to me talk about some business matter for a few minutes, then say, "That's enough, that's too boring, I can't handle any more."

So she's a great Deida woman! She's challenging you, right? Why not accept the challenge?

Again the advice I have been and am giving about listening to your wife is DIRECTLY from Deida since he is talking to YOU (a man on his way to becoming a Superior man). I am not and have not asked you to listen to her as if you were her girlfriend. I ask you to listen to her as if you are her ROCK.