there are very good posts on the MLC post, so feel free to jump around, there is mine of gold here and there on this wonderful site.
==================== he said 'NO' then added he'd be too tired, of course i felt rejected, but tried not to show it and carried on with work on my computer. ==================== I dare you to go anyways, ask a girlfriend or go with your Ds. GAL and take care of yourself while he is sorting himself out. You can either sit and wait 'til he snaps out of it or you can give him space and make yourself happy by doing things on your own.
==================== My question is: lovingly distance or act as if? ==================== Both, give him distance and decide to claim each day for yourself and choose to be happy regardless. Will you feel bad and want to cry here and there? sure, give yourself permision to do so, this is a hard road. But then, when you let it out, remember that you are a beautiful woman, worth it, and go out there and take advantage of each day the Lord gives you.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
