I will admit some of this stuff gets slippery, and I see a different picture of Fearless the more she reveals of herself.
In my first paragraph, what I was trying to say is that her advice sounded like I should do more to listen to my W and therefore meet her needs. At the same time, remember that I had said before that my W would listen to me talk about some business matter for a few minutes, then say, “That’s enough, that’s too boring, I can’t handle any more.” The message I heard from Fearless was the feminist message, which is that the woman’s emotions are tantamount and if the man wants sex and intimacy, he better focus on her emotional state since she is the gatekeeper. Both Dieda and Schlessinger talk about the problems this mentality creates.
My second paragraph wasn’t meant to tie into the first because I am talking about Fearless’ xH. I had in mind that Fearless’ higher level of differentiation must have left her xH feeling needy or wanting something, which is part of why I suspect he left. I don’t see how that necessarily conflicts with her putting forth a feminist position (if that is what she was doing). I’m not sure why you would want to extract comments regarding her H from comments about my sitch. Maybe I don’t get your point.
