Beer? That can cause belly fat. No, no, no.... chocolate martinis!!! pA-lease.... Let me know the bar and I'll meet ya all there too!
Cali, Do not stop detaching and moving on with your life. You really need to do that for you. Don't take the pet name thing to heart. Do not yo-yo back to where you were (expecting this to work and him to come back). Unless he's actually pursuing you and trying to convince you he wants to be there, do not create any expectations in yourself. Chances are if you "pull toward him" he's going to "pull away."
It sounds like you may be starting to get the hang of letting go of the leash. He needs to TRULY FEEL what it's like to lose you. And you need to feel the freedom and limitlessness of completely letting go of him.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Beer? That can cause belly fat. No, no, no.... chocolate martinis!!! pA-lease.... Let me know the bar and I'll meet ya all there too!
hehe, yes I have switched to light beer because of that. I save some calories for my beer, and it is not every night. Been tracking lots of time on the precor.
ROOT you are in CA too right? Where abouts? Maybe a meeting is possible? That would be lots of fun.
Originally Posted By: runningoutoftime
Cali, Do not stop detaching and moving on with your life. You really need to do that for you. Don't take the pet name thing to heart. Do not yo-yo back to where you were (expecting this to work and him to come back). Unless he's actually pursuing you and trying to convince you he wants to be there, do not create any expectations in yourself. Chances are if you "pull toward him" he's going to "pull away."
It sounds like you may be starting to get the hang of letting go of the leash. He needs to TRULY FEEL what it's like to lose you. And you need to feel the freedom and limitlessness of completely letting go of him.
No, no chance of going back. It is just funny that all this time I thought I was detaching and acting as if. But I think my H could read right thought it, cuz I could waiver. When I finally realized that I am in this for me, and I am no longer doing anything in the hopes of getting him back. Actually I am to the point, that I am not sure I want him back, I am enjoying the new stress free time I am having. Now he is slipping, just funny.
No, no chance of going back, and I realize at this point if H did decide he wanted to give us a try, he would have to beg, no more begging or pleading from this end. I am healing, becoming a much better person then I ever was, and I finally know I will be ok.
Yes I still grieve for the loss of my family for my childrens sake, but my kids are seeing a mom who is strong, and can take care of us all by herself. Someone who is not mopey and feeling sorry for herself because of someone elses actions. Someone who can take control of the situation and can use it to her advantage. Make lemonade out of lemons.
