Cold differentiation, fusion and stuff.

[fearless]

I know I in part "drove him away" because I was so enmeshed with him. He felt overwhelmed with being responsible for my happiness.

Yeah and can you imagine how frustrated I felt to feel like I was driving him away with feelings I DIDN'T EVEN FEEL!! I drove myself crazy trying to show him who I really was but he couldn't see me; he could only see his reflection of himself in me (of course I didn't even know that until it was too late). I tended to see the best in him and to see him how he wanted to be and how I knew he could be which isn't a bad thing; it was just hard for him to believe it when he couldn't see it himself.