Point is, maybe your H tried to show his affection for you sexually and u took it the way u describe above, just a thought.
CVA, Yes you are very right in this post as in men and women just don't get the communication level of the other. Hence so many people here. Men treat women the way they would deal with another guy and the women doesn't feel loved and women say why can't he just talk more about his feelings and listen to me, he is so unsensitive. Men, all their woman has to do is look hot and they are ready for sex and the woman says I am not a light switch and can't turn on that fast, seduce me, romance me.
After reading the 5LL is when I finally understood all of this and the actually big things that he was doing for me which was his way of showing me his love. He was doing the Acts of Service but at that time I didn't recognize it as "love" because he wasn't speaking my language. If acts of service was my love language then I would have felt like the most loved person in the world and would have given him everything he wanted. Just a shame that it took such an earth shattering event to finally realize this all now that it is most likely too late.
Now after reading 5LL and DR I wish that I could just tell him that I "get it" all now and we can work things out and make things great between us but that is impossible. At least I am prepared for either H or the next guy that comes along so that at least that I don't make the same mistakes.
Last edited by Kelley; 09/13/0712:53 PM.
Me: 41 H: 39 D: 6 S: 4 M-14 T-16 first bomb: 5-12-07 (M dead doesn't really want to work things out.) second bomb: 6-4-2007 (found note he wrote about wanting desperately to be with OW and would have to give up everything) Kelley
