CVA, I guess I'll be the first to respond, and I bet you think I am going to jump down your throat, Well, yes and no.
In that post you said, everything that I felt and have been feeling for a very long time. The anger, the hurt and the confusion, are all valid. I mean it is hard to keep on, when you don't see any signs that things are improving, but remember this is a matter of time. You and I both know that our W's have to change, no matter what, not for us, but for the kids and lastly for themselves, at least it sounds like yours is more mature than mine is.
Now that I have validated your feelings, time to get down to the truth. You have changed! Stop the pity party! Quit focusing on what she does doesn't do, and focus on you! Just remember change takes time, not everything happens in a day, a week or sometimes even a year. Realize that you have seen some signs from the the W, at least there is still some good contact, talking, back rubs, etc, it sounds like there is at least a friendship there, if nothing else, and friendship is the foundation on which all great R's are based. So what happens next all depends on you!
Be the CVA, that we all know that your are, caring, friendly and good hearted, the one who started such a crazy post, to cheer us all up, the one who gives us such great advice, when we are down! You are him, just let him out more and more! Sooner or later, no matter what happens in your sitch, your W will see this, how she choses to take it, is her problem, not yours. Come on, you are better than this! You are still in my prayers, my good friend. Take care.
