The book "Sex Starved Marriage" is a very good book however, in it tells "What" you need to do, "The Divorce Remedy" tells "How" to do it. I haven't read "Divorce Busting" yet, but you can believe I will. In the meantime wife is reading SSM. Michele, you are right on the mark. Life can be so good if you only take the time to learn how. For example: My wife and myself are at constant odds about money. She was always nagging about how I spend to much money on "Man Toys", as she refers to it. My point was that what is the sense of having money, if you can't have toys to show for it, you mint as well enjoy it. You know you can't take it with you, type of thinking. My father used to always say "I never saw a hearse towing a U-haul". I didn't only spend money on myself, I would spend it on her and the kids as well. For our anniversary I bought her a new wedding set, thinking she would be very pleased. SHE GOT MAD. She said that her old one was the one she got married with and that she had no use for a new one. She said that it was too big, and that it would rip her surgical glove. That I had spent to much money on it etc. The other thing that was always a battle, was my car, a two setter convertible sports car. When I got the car she complained that it was to small, I paid to much, that it was impractical, She would always complain if I wanted to take the top off, you name it, she hates my car. I would always say "why would any one buy a car that the top comes off, then never take it off. She forgets that when we were dating, and ever since, other then a classic Caddilac, that we still have in the garage, every car was a convertible two setter. That's what I like. If we want to go any where with the family we would take her car, or as she hates when I call it a "TRUCK" (SUV)
To get to the point, I learned some things that made a big change, (AND NO I AM NOT GETTING A BIGGER CAR) She had the day off Monday, The two of us went on a date, We went in my car. When she finally came out she found that I did not take off the top, which unless it is raining is something I NEVER do, even if it looks like it may rain latter, as it also has a canves top that I can put up. She got in the car and said "Are we going to go or what", I pulled out of the drive. I noticed she had this bewildered look on her face. When we were about a block away for the house, she finally asked,"Arent you going to take the top off"? I told her that her hair looked to good to have it blown in the wind. At the first light she leaned over and gave me a kiss.
As for the money thing I just got a promotion at work with a $3. 75 per hr raise. When we stopped to eat, I gave her my check book, and all the credit cars, except for the American Express. ( American Express, you must pay off the balance at the end of the month, so you can't get to carried away with it) I told her that I would spend only the raise, as pocket money, and that she, will for now on be in charge of the money, and that if I need more that I would ask her first. What a different person she has become. I changed, so she changed. Concentrate on the solution rather then the problem. It works. I know that we still have a long way to go, however I feel that at least now, we have a road map to follow Thanks Michele Working on not Starving in Florida
