The quote about forgiveness is interesting. I think there is a two-fold meaning to forgiveness. One, letting go of the anger within yourself. That can be done unilaterally as you describe. And two, forgiveness that is meaningful to the offender. I don't think that side of forgiveness can be fully achieved unless the offender either wants or asks for your forgiveness. Too often the LBS is saying "I have forgiven you" to a WAS has no interest in the forgiveness. To that WAS the forgiveness is just another unwanted gift from the LBS. It will not be of value to the WAS until that he/she feels contrition and wants forgiveness.
