starving..please talk to your w about the seriousness of the situation...seeking fullfillment of your needs elswhere is not the answer..you will not be happy you will not find what it is you are truly looking for.
please understand that I am not some woman sticking up for your wife as i am in the same position you are...have told my h how I feel about his low desire and that I will seek elswhere when I get tired of pleasuring myself...
it is a process...
I have more issues in my r than simply the lack of sex but the lack of sex makes the other issues alot harder to deal with.
my h wont read the books I read..barely wants to talk..and only after my threatening a d and actually scheduling an appointment with a lawyer did he open up and talk to me...and become willing to go to a c.
now I don't expect miracles to come from going to a c...and honestly that is only a first step.
if w wont read the books..or they simply go over her head (not meant in an insulting manner..some people just read the words they don't take any of it in...they don't want to reflect) that does not mean that you shouldn't read as much as you can...gain an understanding of yourself...and your w...when you have an understanding of both perspectives it can become easier to have some patience and understanding. and begin to work on the problems.
if you are serious about considering filling your needs with other women then I suggest you nicely let your w know about it and ask for a divorce...there is no way your m will survive doing things that way.
you sound very angry and I don't blame you..hey you live in a vineyard...I am one of the finest glassses of wine (not being cocky but I am a looker) and yet h doesn't want to open that bottle. it frustrates me emensly to leave the house and have other men looking at me in that way...desiring me..when all I want is to be desired by my h..or at least not rejected when I want to be with him. it's a crappy sit to be in...but things can change if your open to it and learn to hear both sides.
read the five love languages by chapman read divorce remedy read the sex starved marriage
don't just read to validate your feelings...read to gain insight to how your w may be seeing things and her feelings.
no one said life would be easy...that is being re-enforced to us the hard way...
how is the rest of your r with w??? do you do things together.. do you share things.. do you talk do you have fun
