Tim, With me it is not so much the frequency, ( though this is, an issue) it is more about what I feel that I have to go through in order to get there. It is about her unwillingness to seek or take advice. Reading a book is great, like I said before, I got and read "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus", which in my opinion is an excellent book, a book according to Barbara Walters, out sold every book, except the Bible, throughout the 90's. I feel that any one that is, or is ever thinking about getting married should read this book.. However though at times it may seem, that we are married to ourselves, we do have partners. My point in this is, that you could read every book ever published, however if your spouse is unwilling to do the same, it will be to no avail. My wife unlike myself is unwilling to accept any responsibility for our situation. As far as she is concerned, this is my problem, I am the cause, I am the one in the wrong. Therefore until I fix things, until I am done, doing all the changing, she will just sit on the side lines, and wait for the evolution to take place. As I said before I truly have my doubts as to the future of this marriage. Though I know probably better then most that the grass on the other side of the fence is just as dead as it is on your side. My Grandmother was my Grandfathers 5th (Yes fifth ) wife. My mother was wife number one, of five. Divorce is not the answer. Nor is marriage! For that matter I have lately come to the conclusion nor is monogamy, I have tried that for 20 (Twenty ) Years. Had I the chance to do all over again, I would NEVER get married!!!! Life is SOOOO good until you get married. I thank God for my children, and if not for them I would never have stayed. Women are the most beautiful creatures on the face of the planet, and truly a gift for God, UNTIL THEY GET THAT RING!!!! The key here, is NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, give a women a ring, and you will be happy for the rest of your life. I will never get a divorce, I will on the other hand get another, and another, and another women!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Men we live in a vineyard, yet we are forbidden to taste the grapes or the wine, I for one am going to feast on the vine, I am going to get drunk on the wine, I am going to taste every bottle I can get my hands on. I love my wife very much, but gentlemen love is for suckers, I love my wife, I love my kids, I love my dog, Ilove my car, I love LOVE WOMEN! My marriage my not be the better for it, I on the other hand WILL, get my fill.
