I'll tell ya, we also do the holding hands thing at night. And he holds me more than anytime in our life than ever. Much more attentive than anytime before, dating or married. And he listens most of the time (which is SO GOOD already for a men to listen most of the time). He would be the greatest lover at this point if there were no OW and A beforehand. Most friends see us and wonder what we are doing we look like we are so deeply in love. The female friends all want to know how we are so good together. Beneath the surface, however, the pain is there. I feel the same that the contact is negating all the good. I feel like we are putting a bandaid on a rottening wound.
Knowing my H and what he went through, I do think I need to give him space and let him end it the way he wants to end it. My H did tell me he will cut off contact eventually, but he asked me to give him space. Will see how long I can last "giving him space".
LO, we can have a pity party every so often. Then wipe off the tears and start GALing again :-)
