"lwb, separation is not easy. if you are seriously considering it, try to sit down and create groudrules/bounderies with your H that you both can adhere to."
Oh I am not considering it. He stated it last night. Honestly, I can't take the phone calls/attachment anymore, but he stated he is moving out. Part of me (teeny part) is ok with it, because I stood my ground about the contact.
I got very late last night when we finally tried to talk about the kids/visiting, so we both agreed another time would be better.
Oh God morgan, I haven't ever met your kids and I want to hug them and make them feel better. That's awful, just horrible. First of all, its so hard for you to wake up in the morning and face your OWN situation, but then to wake up and have to brave-face it for her. I am so sorry. Constant reminders, huh? Sounds like H is too guilty to face it, just tries the quick fixes. The heartbreaking time with your eldest. OMG did you cry too? I would have been a mess, beyond a mess. That is the only time I lose it with H, when we start talking about the kids.
The night I kicked him out (when I found out about the A), he was crying when he was kissing them goodbye. I started crying, because of the pain he was in, and I couldn't help him.
What are some of things you tell your kids about the separation? I suppose I am going to have to study up on all this.
