HELLO DARKNESS MY OLD FRIEND

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I need some advice....

As some of you know, I have been dark since May 8th.

H tried to call me today. H tried to text me today. He left a message asking if the baby was going to come over to his house tonight because he had heard she had been sick. He could of just asked my two older kids this when he had talked to them earlier.

I did not respond.

My plan is to only deal with him if he shows some signs of remorse, regret, etc...

My plan is to only deal with him if he shows signs of getting help and wants to talk about it.

Is this too unrealisitic????
I guess it is just too painful for me to talk with him unless he wants to reconcile and dump OW.