King of Pain

[Dr LOve]

And it is not necessary for the offender to ask for our forgiveness, nor to have repented their sin, nor even to have acknowledged the injury in the first place. All that is required is that we forgive that person, because, as Michele wrote, it is a gift to ourselves.

By forgiving those who have done us wrong, we in effect turn this hurt over to God, for He is the final judge. And by taking this burden off of us and letting God deal with that person (whether sooner or later) then we are freeing ourselves up to move on, past the pain. It does feel like the wise and spritually uplifting thing to do, but I also know, personally, that it is very, very hard to do. Every time you think you might be past the hurt, something dredges it back up. But then that is just part of the cyclical, evolving nature of our healing process. Each time it gets a little easier and little easier.

Noco,

Did you have a vision? See a burning bush or something?

This is right ON. I know it is hard and I know it would be nice if the "offender" would say they were sorry but it is not necessary to move on. This is what I am trying to do. I am trying to re establish the emotional /intimate bond between my W and me. After this is done. Then I would like to address what went wrong in the past and what WE can do to prevent it from happening again.

Husband