Newly Separated....Now what???

[BryanS]

I'm not really in the same boat so I can't truly relate like I've been exactly there. However, I know that I have a HUGE tendancy to blow MINOR things WAY out of proportion. Like I didn't talk to W for a couple of days and even though last time we talked things went well, and even though I knew this was a busy week for her, I still had to have a friend talk me down from my mental ledge last night. This morning, I got an e-mail from her in which she apologized for the lack of contact and called me "honey", something that hasn't happened in 6 weeks, proving yet again that time and paitience are my friends. Do I know this: yes. Do I still lose my mind regularly: yes.

I say all that as a way of suggesting that maybe you need to give it a little more time. If you just started the 180 a week or two ago, you might need to "let it ride" a while longer to see what the true effect will be. Time and paitience are your friends. His pulling back might be his way of trying to regain control of you, seeing if you'll chase him. If you stay your course and are pleasant about it, he won't know how to deal with that and will have to come back to you. Only you know for sure but it sounds to me like what you're doing is working, it just needs a little more time. I know you miss him and there I can fully empathize with your sitch. Think of this as growing pains, when you come out the other side, you'll be emotionally taller and stronger you just gotta hang on till you get there. I'm pulling for you.