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As for Dieda, that list is for men ONLY. On page 27 he says "Admit to yourself that if you had to chose one or the other, the perfect intimate relationship or achieving your highest purpose in life, you would chose to succeed at your purpose." Now he also says that for some men their primary purpose is their W or family. But whatever the purpose is, that is the man's main objective.
Obviously that is not your objective, is it? So those 4 points have nothing to do with you. You main objective is your relationship and family. Your career or his career is secondary. So you will not have the same priorities because you are not trying to accomplish the same thing.
Embedded in my 4 summary points is the heart of all this, the reason for a man's primary purpose, which is to share his fullest gifts with his woman. He cannot do that if he is not content with his job, if he is directionless in life, if he does not know what he wants. Any man in this situation will end up depressed, no matter how loving or devoted a W he has. Only when he is fulfilling his purpose can he feel like a full, complete and empowered man and share his gifts with his woman.
So in this way the woman IS the reason for everything. She is the inspiration. But he can only do for her by not being distracted from providing for her. Does that make sense and does it make you fell better?
