I don't think Deida is making a list of rules. I think someone came up with this list to paraphrase/simplify what they saw as Deida's four main points. Have you read any of the book? I didn't see it as anti- anything, personally. But that's me.
I suppose I didn't worry about whether the writing offended me, because he wasn't writing TO me, a woman. This particular book was written to/for men.
He also has a book he has written for women. I haven't read it, but it would be interesting to see if you felt the same way, reading it.
