Uhhh, ladies, I think that is the pt of DBing, at least one of them anyway! You pull back and they come to you.
Good for both of you Nutty and Warm
See ya. C
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
Great stuff, sunny! I always love to read your positive posts that show H really coming to and enjoying your picnic! And the kisses -- that is just OUTSTANDING!!! Good for you! I can just picture H "skipping" away, or at least having a bit of a bounce in his step. I envy you.
Didn't know if you read my sitch or not from a few weeks ago, but W's R with her BF isn't going so hot anymore. He just isn't that model man she thought he was. IMHO, he was just playing the role to get in her pants, and now he isn't so concerned with keeping her around since the challenge to bag a hot young lady to boost his self-esteem has been beaten.
Sorry you've been lonely without me, still, and Nomo around . I'll try to come around more often!
I am torn between thinking Ow is making him happy so he is being nice to me; and maybe he is testing the water to see if he would get a warm welcome if he wanted to come home. It's so confusing.
It is confusing NG, that's why I don't let myself wonder or spend too much time thinking about it. I guess we'll find out sooner or (prolly)later.
H came by to see S4 on Monday & asked me out for Friday night. I told him I'd think about it & let him know tonight when he comes over again. He just called & left a message that he'd like it if I joined them this evening.
I have been good about keeping my feet planted at my picnic GD, just have to keep a patience & expectation watch on at all times.
Nice to hear from you...I missed hearing from & about you.
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W's R with her BF isn't going so hot anymore.
That was predictable, wasn't it! Especially since he just came out of a marriage recently.
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Uhhh, ladies, I think that is the pt of DBing, at least one of them anyway! You pull back and they come to you.
It sure is CVA, as we all(most anyway) know, it's easier said than done, especially when there hasn't been a lot of "coming to you."
Better get ready for tonight's visit by reading "As If" a couple of times.
sometimes you come out with the most profound statements for example
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Itis confusing NG, that's why I don't let myself wonder or spend too much time thinking about it. I guess we'll find out sooner or (prolly)later.
This just cuts to the heart of the matter , we can only control us and they are free to do as they see fit. They the WAS will need to deal with the consequences of thier decisions in due course. Its not for us to worry about. Our only concern will be what to do with them when they try to find thier way back.
I'm wondering about the same thing. But the other way around that maybe my H gets bored too easily and now that he has conquered the hotest woman at work its not boosting his self esteem anymore. He is living the real life day to day and sees she has flaws too.
Our only concern will be what to do with them when they try to find thier way back.
Right, Dave. And we can't concern ourselves with trying to figure that out until they are 110% committed to finding their way back -- it'll drive us nuts if we do so now!
Sunny,
Just stopping by again to say hey -- I'll continue trying to do so more often! Hope you're doing well!
I did take H up on a date for the next Friday after my B-Day. He told me he would call with the time & place the next day. When he didn't call & just showed up, my mood took a little dive. We had a nice time, just not as nice as the B-Day dinner.
When we arrived home, he came up to say goodnight, as I told him I was tired & going to bed. Ended up having s*x for the first time in 5 months. I didn't care at the time if I ever saw him again, I was going to take advantage of the opportunity. It was really nice.
The next day he started the distancing. Completely predictable & I wasn't surprised. I did ask him if he enjoyed the evening & got this reply; "I was curious if I would feel drawn & I didn't. I'm no closer to packing my bags & coming back than I ever was."
O.K.
Called him an hour later to say that if that was the case, let's just move on.
He said I pushed him into that response & really, he needs more time.
This week he has asked me to go out to dinner with him & S4 everytime he's been here. I've declined each time, although all the interactions have been nice & friendly.
Today I saw what the OW looked like.....
Why I didn't think she would be so pretty, I don't know. It did fill in a lot of blanks for me as to what the draw was for him & apparently still is.
For some reason, after the initial surprise, I feel better knowing more. Instead of feeling less confident, I feel somehow more. Strange.
Maybe it's b/c I believe that yes, although looks count, they don't mean that you're going to plan a life around them (thanks Nomo ).
I don't intend on being available for many/most/any get-to-gethers with H & S4 anytime soon. I will keep the friendly, upbeat, confident me intact for glimpses as I'm going about my life though.
Wow a bit of a connection still going in your camp. He is infatuated with OW but probably cant see a future and is hanging on to you as a " backstop" as best as he can. Thats how I see it . In this case you have been doing all the right things IMO keep at it.
. I'll try to come around more often!
