Hi CMNM!
I just read your thread and never posted to you before. From reading your thread I noticed some sort of communication 'pattern'.

I sense your DH wants to try but is discouraged by this 'pattern'. I also feel that if you take things slower you can get more results.

I noticed that everytime your DH approaches you, like asking about your dream, you tell him off. You say, it wasn't the kind you're thinking of so don't go there. He feels punished and leaves. Maybe if you take things a bit lighter and not assume he will do anything he might feel safer to talk to you. (besides if he did you could have made a little naughty joke about it and keep it light and funny)

There was another example I read but can't remember it anymore... Hmmm, maybe I'll post it to you later...

Did you read 'How to get your husband to talk to you'? It's by Connie Grigsby and another female author. Like the title says it's about communication and is very helpful also in talking with your sons. And then Mars Venus...

He is putting his feelers out..still. If you want the M don't cut the feelers off but stroke them ever so gently so he will come for more.