I just got a book called overcoming insomnia and sleep problems - a self help guide using Cognitive Behavioural techniques and another one called Overcoming Weight problems - a self help guide using Cognitive behavioural Techniques.
I have had terrible problems sleeping this last year or so - even when on ante depressants. As for the weight, well I am a uk size 10 which is a US size 6 I think so I am not large but I would like to shift just about 10lbs so I thought I would try this out.
look like good books and they weren't that expensive.
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
I have had terrible problems sleeping this last year or so - even when on ante depressants. As for the weight, well I am a uk size 10 which is a US size 6 I think so I am not large but I would like to shift just about 10lbs so I thought I would try this out.
Saffie
Geez Saffie. I would be happy with a US 10 let alone a 6, LOL
H told me yesterday that he would pick up the kids from school since he is working overnights this week and getting off at 5 am. He called five minutes before they got out of school to tell me he would be over to pick up the truck to get them. (its an expedition only thing big enough to hold 5 kids, lol). he showed up picked them up, then said he didn't have enough gas money to take them all the way back to his house and he forgot his wallet. i told him since they had homework, would he be ok if he just stayed with them here and helped them with their homework? he said fine.
i went out to run errands (which was me getting my nails done, lol). and we texted a bit about his 18 yo son from his first marriage, and some band concerts.
i came home made tacos, and told him he was welcome to stay. he said he was fine, needed to get home and do laundry before he went to work tonight. we chatted a bit, but i stayed very much stand offish as per LRT.
at one point something happened and he responded to me as 'hun' instead of my name. i didn't even react but i am wondering if he realized?
in the last few days i have noticed little things like that and once him saying 'next time we are getting a sitter for the baby'.
well why would you say that if it is over.
i seriously think he is confused, and is just so afraid to hurt the OW right now that he stays where he is.
am i reading this right? has anyone else's S called them their 'pet name'?
Ya did well by doing "errands" and letting him stay there. Don't get your hopes up but........They feel comfortable at not being pursued. Its the little slips that are a sign that our spouses are letting there guard down. Keep it up. You are doing a good job. Let him come back to you.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
husband is right. If you keep up the 'as if', he'll feel more comfortable to do those things again. Remember, we are trying not to scare the timid animal away. Guard down is good.
Yes that is what I feel. What is wierd all this finally came about after I finally 'gave up' on reconciliation. I think he can feel the difference. I am trying to live life for myself and no longer doing this with expectations from him.
Yes that is what I feel. What is wierd all this finally came about after I finally 'gave up' on reconciliation. I think he can feel the difference. I am trying to live life for myself and no longer doing this with expectations from him.
Hey cali,
I think you got it
The same thing is happening with Yoyo and me. As long as you cling or persue they seem to want to stgay away. but when you start going about our life / daily rotine without them there they are. Keep it up Cali, Don't be let down ifH says or does somthing that makes you feel bad or agery. Above all do not take anything personal. EVEN IF THEY THINK they mean it that way. let it go it's not worth it.
Sleep well Hippe mama
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
