I have to agree with those of us here who are kind of in limbo, I think mingling will probably be okay. Maybe boost the esteem.
I hear this, but remember that to have that healthy R with yourself, YOU need to be the one to boost your self-esteem, not others. Build other healthy R's with others (friends, coworkers, relatives, etc), but build self-esteem with being happy with who you are. Know that you are a great person, and anyone would be lucky to have you as a friend, relative, significant other, etc. This is where the self-esteem is best achieved. Make individual goals (both short term and long term), strive to meet them, and revel in your accomplishments. Make the necessary changes in you that you KNOW will bring you closer to being the person you want to be -- let that boost your self-esteem. Just remember that ultimately no one can make you happy except you. Mingling is fine, but do it for the right reasons.
Sorry, just think it's good for ALL OF US to remember that.
