Thats right Jar. Thats the name of the game. Validate, repeat and add "I understand". Even if you are irritated, angry and resentful. Let her see this new you while you are working on being a wonderful H.
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.
