I have been away a couple of days , had an out of town meeting and just got back yesterday . W stayed at home and looked after the house/kids. Today W comes round and visits. I went out for a while but later in the afternoon we just hang out listening to music and having a couple of drinks it was very nice. She stayed for dinner and went home just after. No R talk at all or anything other than hanging out . it was nice , I enjoyed her company and I think she enjoyed mine . Real simple stuff but good.
Not a rugby fan are you? The All-Blacks seem to be in top form for the WC. I got to see the opening match today (argentina v. france) which was amazing.
Anyway, glad things are on an even plane for the moment!
SD
Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread
Just stopping in to say hi. Glad things are still plugging along at a relatively steady pace (at least no downward spirals!). Having a nice relaxing day/evening with W and some drinks sounds fantastic (I'm actually drooling right now!)
Dave-- I just wanted to check in. Status quo is not a terrible place to be if W is still being kind and there is not a high amount of tension. Hope I can get to that, someday. I don't know if I can ever handle it, though, just being friends... But it can be a very powerful thing. --D
Thank you all for looking in. I have not posted because I have very little to report. This seems to be a very calm period (eye of the storm ??) . W seems a bit more settled on the outside and has no problem comming here and making herself at home. I would say that its in limbo and W is enjoying some family life and the ability to come and go here at home as well as retain her independent separate life. I am tolerating this for now while I ponder what I want. At the moment I am getting on with life but not moving on and thats frustrating me a little. The impatient side of me is wanting to push towards getting some resolution one way or the other so that I can move forward. Captain Sensible however is saying be patient , lets see where this goes. Friends think we have the strangest seperation they have ever seen because W still comes by and fixes meals , does washing and stuff , hangs out at times, I put that down to the success of Michelles book in that it got me to a place where I have saved at least our friendship. W still has stuff to work through in her own time and OM is still a wild card as they still work in the same store.
Me I have learnt lots. I can be happy by myself. I am enjoying life and making more time for friends as well as the kids.
It is the expectations...and they are all based on 21 years of history. I have to treat him like a completely different person, and I'm just not ready to do that, yet. Not sure if I ever will be, especially with how disrespectful he has been to me as of late (and that isn't even counting the continuing affair!).
