WAW1978-Part 4

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The issues had been laid out for him...more than once. He needs IC to get over his control issues and learn why he must stiffle all that makes me who I am. He needs to stop calling me & my family trash and treating me like a second class citizen. I think most of this stems from an overbearing mother. He has never really gotten out under Mommies skirt and has allowed his parents to run most of his life, including his marriage. I have always been no 5, after D, MIL, FIL, & SIL...sometimes I wonder if even the dog & cat got higher priority.

When I suggested that he continue on with the IC (he has been 2x) as I thought it was helping him he totally disagreed. He said he didn't need it, never needed it and didn't the point since he was moving on. I did not push the issue. I have been seeing and IC for some time as I blamed myself for not being "good enough" for him, be it looks wise, as a wife or as a mother. I almost had a nervous breakdown trying to be what he wanted and essentially denying who I was. It wasn't until I knew more about myself that I was able to recognize that our M was in serious trouble.

I am not running out to get a date but I might just have to entertain the idea depending on what the proposition was. Drinks after work, maybe. Dinner, probably not. Low commitment but mingling none the less.