My W. is a sick person...I've heard it from several prople who have been with me throughout this, including many neighbors that she has alienatied......but what can I do about that.
Okay, here is a bit of a 2x4 thrown your way, dear FLTC ...
Do more than not make excuses! Keep a record of your W's behaviour and actions, and if it comes to D, get custody of the children. Perhaps, you should move back into your own house when you go back to the States (it's your home, and you have every right to it ... get some legal advice on this), and if your W is unhappy, she can go live in a foxhole somewhere. She definitely needs to see a psychiatrist, but how does one get her to do that? Tearing one's bedroom apart in the manner you described is not normal ... your D13 saying sorry, sorry over and over again, is not normal (my heart just broke reading that) ... having fist fights with one's child is not normal ... alienating neighbors is not normal either (and, I am guessing that you have only told us the tip of the iceberg version). Your W needs help, and for the sake of the kids, I hope she gets it, or you find a way to get her into some sort of psych evaluation when you get home.
Can your D16 not go somewhere else that's not so expensive? Do you pay the school directly, or does your W pay them? What I mean is ... is it really $8,000 a month, or is that what your W tells you?
Not vindictive to save some money for yourself!
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W.'s response to me: "So, you think I'm a shi^^y mother?"
For her to have thrown that at you, means that she knows deep down that she is. What was your response? I hope, "hell yeah!" Okay, I'm being mean, but I still have your D13's 'sorry, sorry's' in my head. I have a D14, and when she says sorry for anything, it's a realization of her wrongdoing, and she just says, "um, sorry mom". I have such a close R with my daughters, and my son (although my D20 is not living up to her potential right now, but she will eventually ... I have faith in her), that I cannot imagine having one in a school far away because of my actions, or another living in fear of me (and I used to have anger issues myself, so I know what I'm talking about ... starting to wonder if I did now ... anger issues, I mean ).
Okay, enough of my opinions, and I think I'm starting to not make sense now. Hope the lack of MEDEVACS continues. Take care of yourself, and you should be d*mn proud of your service to your country.
(((((HUGS)))))
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
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