Ahh, IMP...I feel my own words have come back to bite me. My pat answer to many people is "Just Be." So, having you tell me to stop working at it and just live makes me smile. Thank you for that reminder.


As I said, I told my H that he could come to watch his/son's Tues. night show here since son doesn't want to go to his place anymore. Well, when I got home from the gym last night, he was already here. I started putting things away and he came into the kitchen to say Hi to me. I simply returned the greeting and kept up what I was doing.

I had promised my son earlier in the day to make a snack for him during the show. So, about midway into it I called him to come get some hot wings that I made. I included his favorite dipping sauce as well as H's.

Then, I went up to bed. Sometime around 10:30ish, H came up to my room to say goodnight. Lemme backtrack for a sec... Earlier in the week I had told him that I had a wonderful dream about us. I didn't say what it was about, but I said that I woke up feeling at peace. I took his reply about wanting to hear about it as sexual... as if he thought it was "that" kind of a dream and he wanted details, so I kind of dropped it.
Back to last night- he said I never told him about the dream. I said that it wasn't the kind he thought and that when he took it to a sexual place I knew there was no point in telling the story. He said he didn't take it there, that I was mistaken. He didn't really look as if he wanted to continue the conversation, so we made a little more small talk (about his 2 primary subjects these days... how he doesn't feel well and how tired he is). Then, he left.

This morning I got a text message from him. It said:
Good morning! Thanks for last night. I would really like to hear about your dream.

So, I guess I will answer that, as I haven't yet. The dream was about us being in a relationship, and I woke up feeling as if everything was going to be o.k. It's very anti-DB, but I guess I will tell him about it. My prediction? He will ignore what I have to say. But, he did ask, and since one of my problems with him is that he picks and chooses which questions to answer, I will go ahead and reply.

I woke up thinking "detach!" Believe it or not, this IS detaching for us. The real key is to not take his interest as anything other than that... mild interest. This is where I veer of the DB course time and time again!