A thread for JimmyBean

[Dom R]

Dom,

I am not talking about the amount of time, I am talking about the fact that she has said she did not love him before she married him. Therefore she must have been lying when she made the vows.

OR... she's lying/misremembering/distorging the past now.
Hmmm?
There are many many cheating spouses, who claim as justification, "I never really loved you!!"
And I'm sure that some of them actually somehow have convinced themselves that is true. Except in reality, it wasnt.

I dont think that people in an affair, are the only ones to rewrite their memories of their past.

The ideal which christianity gives us is that we should not just give up on an R because it is going through a rocky period. That is the gold standard and one which we should certainly hold to in most situations. I just don't happen to believe this is one of those situations, not from what Jimmy has told us. Why do you think anullment exists - it is to protect people who made a genuine mistake and married someone who just wasn't suitable to be married.

As a side comment: I dont believe that Anullment is biblically valid.
Show me in the bible where anullment is defined? It aint there.
Anullment is just weaslewords to cover up that a divorce is what is wanted, but there arent biblical grounds for it.

Note that one of the "grounds" for annulment, is "no sex".
I think that you can ask to have your marriage annulled, just because the two of you never had sex. No other reason: person was faithful, loves you... just wont give you sex.

But it's not biblically valid to divorce someone on those grounds. So....?


PS: being "in love" is not a requirement to get married, to begin with. It never was. After all, most marriages in Jesus's time, were arranged marriages, I think!

definately preferable. but not required, nor grounds for divorce if it isnt present.
sure makes for a sucky marriage if it stays that way... but still not biblical grounds for divorce. There's only one thing for that.