Tell me why this wouldn't work for WAW1978 and all WAS's.
What is so wrong with her explaining to him that she wants to work on it, but his controling nature is what is the problem. He tries to control by being reactionary and instead of bringing his W closer to him he is pushing her away.
I'm guessing these things have been said and he refuses to listen. Maybe your approach can change, maybe and IC session for WAW were she explains her feelings to the C and asks the C to be a neutral third party and to speak with, privately, WAW's H.
I'm just trying to brainstorm ideas here. I know how I feel and I would do anything for my W, but apparently I'm not doing the right thing. If someone else came along with the 2x4 and straightened it out I'm sure the message would be received much easier without the preconceptions of the nagging or spiteful W.
