What he seems to be saying to me is that what the feminine wants is the masculine presence and consciousness.
Yes, I see this throughout the book.
The career and the purpose are just manifestations of that presence and consciousness in a realm that are not in relationship. The gifts that you give are of your masculine consciousness and presence not only to your wife but the world (cosmos/creation/everything/god).
I see this too. He does speak a lot about masculine versus feminism presence, the spiritual gifts, etc. But I also notice that his underlying theme is still rooted in the physical plane. He seems to be say (indirectly) that the woman has an inherent insecurity to her, not as any sort of flaw, but because her “purpose” is to focus on the relationship and the family. So she will be dependent on various aspects of the man’s security.
I see Dieda proposing that the man’s role is to address and sooth this inherent insecurity in women. But to do so, the man must focus on himself and his mission (whatever that is) to ensure the man’s success. The man can then share the “gifts” of that success with the woman to calm her vulnerable position. His purpose cannot be the woman.
p. 116 – “A woman really wants her man to be totally dedicated to his highest purpose – and also to love her fully. Although she would never admit it, she wants to feel that her man would be willing to sacrifice their relationship for the sake of his highest purpose.”
p. 117 - “If the woman has become the point of your life, you are lost.”
p. 70 – “One of the deepest feminine desires in intimacy (though not in business or simple friendship) is to be able to relax and surrender, knowing that her man is taking care of everything.”
Mojo,
Maybe someone else sees another aspect to Dieda, but that is the core of his message to me. He does not lay it out so cleanly anywhere in his book. Those 4 points also do not address the more emotional themes he talks about.
