Nice convo chicki, made a lot of sense how he feels and thinks. Too bad for the douche bag comment though. If he feels powerful to call you names, let him be. My W call me names all the time, I let her feel guilt when she does since she says she better watch the manner she speaks.
About your bill: If H dont live there and dont want to pay the bill, then you did what I would do. It seems he wants to live with OW and dont want to see you be independent of him. This alone shows how inconsiderate of him. He should be happy you are doing your own thing and taking responsiblity for it.
About the OM: I agree that you dont leave on R for another. That alone tells a person how much they cherish their M. I made a good note of that to my W when she was continuously calling this OM. I mentioned how can you just leave our M and get into a R with this OM given the fact he is still M. Long story there.
All in all congrats for having a wonderful convo. You are handling matters in the right way.
Congrats!!!
See the W, Listen to the W, but dont Speak back to the W. Bridle your tongue...
