I was really torn about whether or not I should tell H. (He knew I had two classes this week.) I finally sent a text that said "Dang it! My cooking class for tomorrow night got cancelled-I'm so bummed!"... But with him, I had to wonder if it was "ok". He just called a few minutes ago to say "Aww. your class got cancelled, huh? You were supposed to cook that for me. haha"
I think you did the right thing sending the text message. Why? because he responded positively! He enjoyed sharing that part of your life.
on the "keep doing what works"... it seems like being open, conversational, and available with him, is working. He's not dating anyone else, and he's spending positive time with you, and enjoying it. SO, I dont think it makes sense to suddenly play games about being hard-to-get or such nonsense now.
In a similar vein.. .maybe the dinner invite wasnt such a good idea, because he didnt respond positively. I guess the real proof will be whether he takes you up on it or not.
My own non-professional opinion, is that if you just Keep Doin What you're Doing over the next (2?) months, and having a positive time with him (including sex), that when it is time to "revisit your contract" as you put it... you will have made a great case for him to be ok with just moving back in. You'll then have to decide whether he has been treating you nicely enough, to ALLOW him to move back in.
But keep this "under your hat", as they say, until it is around that time, i'd think.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
